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Here’s the latest and probably last post from the DreamCatching project on which I have been working the last several weeks. I thought some of you here would find it useful and/or enjoyable!
https://dreamcatchingshow.wordpress.com/2015/04/29/courage/

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Nathan M McTague, CPCC, CPDPE

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Fights with our partners can happen over anything, can’t they?? _ My partner and I recently fought over how many bananas I might eat on a given day! I can laugh now, but I got so mad at the time, I uncharacteristically said, “I don’t think we should talk about this any more right now.”. I never say that... _ You see, I got so triggered that I temporarily forgot a key concept in fighting well (and this is true for working with all upset people, whether it’s your partner, your kid, your friends, or your parents): let this issue *be* the issue. _ Our emotional brain doesn’t care what the issues are — you can check this by revisiting the original issue after the upset is gone and see how small it has become — it just latches onto an issue in order to license the release of emotion that we need to get out of us. _ It could have been anything. On this day, my partner’s emotional brain chose bananas to help her get her feelings out. And as a last gasp before the emotion started to take over, her logical brain tried to make sense of how the bananas could really honestly be so important. They got linked to how many more times than me my partner may have chosen to go to the store in the past. And how the housework is divided. And the time she has for projects she’s developing. And whether I care about her. _ For me, nothing she was saying sounded right. Her facts were off. Her summations too absolute. Her seeming lack of appreciation for all of my wonderful qualities and contributions to our family health and happiness was so triggering to me that I had to tap out of the conversation. At the time, it was a desperate attempt not to let myself be dragged off center, or allow someone to control how many bananas I eat. _ We both had such deep stuff well up for us that our connection got short circuited. (This post is so long, you’ll have to go to the comments to read what we did...)

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